Relationship Pros and Cons by Tee

Today I'm going to give my two cents on Relationship issues.  The advantage of this post today is........ (drum roll please) the men can participate in this discussion with comments if they like.  But before I continue on this subject, please let me apologize to the stay at home Dads.  My earlier post this week I suggested some stay at home or office fitness tips to the women and I praised the Moms for being such a strong force behind their families and just for being the Commander-In-Chief for the home.  Dads if you've switched the role with the Moms, I take my hate off to you for doing and continuing to do such a remarkable job for your family.

Now, on to the subject of today.  Let me just say I'm not a relationship expert but I am experienced in LIFE.  I've had enough experience by lending an ear and shoulder to some major life heartaches and headaches regarding relationships to have some knowledge in this area.

Ladies:  The Dos and Don't List:

• When going out for a night on the town with your girlfriends, whether it's a club, dinner lounge, concert or whatever, please dress appropriate.  Ladies please leave something to the imagination for the men.  If you go out with all your assets exposed, you may not capture the man of your dreams but most likely a "one night stand."  You can dress classy and still be sexy at the same level.  Men tend to respect ladies more when we show some respect for ourselves, and yes that does include your attires.
• Please don't be so quick to exchange phone numbers with new acquaintences. Just because he was smiling and talking to you does not mean he's ready to become a couple or your baby's father. You're setting yourself up for a major disappointment.  Let's say you exchange numbers - you're going to be expecting his call everyday, and if that call doesn't come in - BAM disappointment sets in and you're going to think something is wrong with you and that equals depression mode.
• Stop falling for these guys that's already in a relationship with another lady.  You see, you have to know how men play the "lady against lady" game.  It's an old game but men tend to keep playing it but continue changing the method up alittle to disguise the original method. 
• Men are born to chase, so let them chase you for a while.  You're not playing a game with him, however it will show you (1) how interested he is in you, and (2) what lengths he will take to catch you.  I'm not saying you should take him through any changes but make the "chase/catch" worth his and your time.
• Stop advertising the fact that "you don't need a man, you pay your own bills, you have your own place, etc."  It's great that you have accomplished all those things, but you don't need to tell the world about it.  Men look at this in admiration, but they don't need ladies constantly throwing it in their face.  They can see all of this by the way you carry yourself in your confidence in loving yourself minus the arrogant attitude. 
• Love yourself first.  Don't just say it but walk the talk.  When you get your hair done, there's no need in sending pictures out with the question "how you like my hair?" Don't search for compliments and approvals - allow it to come to you and trust me it will.
• Stop selling yourself short and accepting just any type of Man in your life.  Ladies know your worth and stop settling for the bull---t.  Being the side chick is not classy, nor will it bring you happiness.  We were not created for leftovers nor sloppy seconds -this is a society creation.  We hold the goldmine and until you meet a Man that's worthy of  this gold - Bye Felicia.
• Stop treating these men like they're your husbands before you actually have the ring, because by putting the cart before the horse you're opening the door for heartache.  Just suppose things does not work out and he chose some other lady in place of you?  Now you're upset and ready to fight his new lady because you think about all you've done for him.  Grow up please.
• Take your time, get to know each other, spend quality time together,  laugh alittle, meet his family and friends, watch the way he interact with others, learn his work ethic, find out his goals in life, how does he treat you in public, does he open your door, how is his communication skills, etc.  This is a good time to get to know this person who wants to be in your life.

Let your man treat you like the queen that you are, and remember if you meet a man with children ladies, please know that's a package deal and it does not have to be a deal breaker.

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Men, I didn't forget about you this time.  Please don't think I don't know about some of the things men go through with ladies because I do.  After all, I have a husband, two sons, four brothers and several nephews, so I think I know a little something about this gender called Man, as well.

Men: The Dos and Don't List:

• Stop allowing these ladies to keep using you guys for your monetary worth because your worth means so much more.  You're so soft when a cute face gives you attention and when they refer to you as "baby, sweetie or honey," POW! - you think you're in love.  Ladies know what words work best on men.  We're the creators of the sweet nothings.  Even a lady that looks like a troll can say the right words, so think with your head that holds the brain, okay.
• The vehicles does not make you the IT, especially if you're still living with your parents.  Now there's nothing wrong with living with your parents, but just be real with yourself and stop rolling around town with your GQ attires, your nice car and flashing your money like you got it going on.  That opens Pandora box for the ladies to steer toward you to get in that wallet and will not even consider all the other great attributes that you have to offer.
• Men continue to love the one you're with, and don't let anyone come between you and your significant other.
• It is not okay for you to have other non related females in your phone that are not your wife, significant other or partner associate as well. If you have female friends, they should be associated in some form with your main partner.  Note, I did not say friends with her, although that would be nice but if that's not the case, your main lady should be in that mix.  This works vice versa as well.  COPY AND PASTE LINK INTO NEW BROWSER -  http://bit.ly29b09sjtadad -Revise Her Drive.  
• Please stop letting your unattached friends give you advice on your love life when they have never had a steady girlfriend or significant other in their life.
• Why not flip the script and prepare or take your lady out to a romantic dinner or just schedule a date night once a week where the two of you can just date each other again.  You have to keep the fire burning in your relationship because if not, once that flame goes down - "Houston We Have A Problem. "
• It's okay to hold hands, cuddle in public, kiss each other and show your love and affection for one another.  These actions are normal when you love a person and don't care who knows it.  Men these actions does not deplete your manhood, not at all.  You'll probably be the envy of many because ladies will see you as a model of what sexy looks like and what they wish they had.  

Men send your lady some "just because" flowers, or take her out shopping.   It doesn't have to be a shopping spree to break the bank, however surging on a handbag or a pair of pumps would surely grant you a big reward with your lady that will leave you smiling for days!

Okay I'm going to let these TIPS marinate with you until my next post, so until next time.

Later
Tee

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